How do we live a life that is worth it? What is a worth it life?  Is a a perfect life? I don’t think so, because the perfect life is like a Snipe… it doesn’t exist.

Maybe a worth it life is the ability to travel all around the world with just a backpack and your best friends. Or maybe it’s working hard to have your own little family farm and garden that feeds your family.

Perhaps a worth it life is falling in love… a lot or maybe it’s falling in love once and working hard to love that person forever.

The point is, everybody’s “worth it life” looks different and it usually takes hard work, sweat and dreaming to live that worth it life.

My worth it life consists of sweating a lot while training horses, working hard to write my best songs, having magical golden sunset moments with my babies and working hard to continue to love my husband.

Also, my worth it life consist of running hard, lifting weights, yoga, health, helping others, helping animals, sleepless nights stressing over events I’m planning and late nights talking with the love of my life.

These things aren’t perfect. Seems like they are far from it. Usually, at the end of the day, I have some kind of dirt of makeup smeared across my face. Sometimes, my husband and I go to bed in a fight because we are trying to work through our relationship. And sometimes I’m in tears because the event I’m planning, horse I’m training or songs I’m trying to write aren’t going as I hoped.

And do you know what, it’s TOTALLY WORTH IT. I’m learning and growing and stretching. I’m not perfect and I know it, but I’m improving. Through the struggles and the mess and the tears and the smeared makeup and dirty hands and feet, I’m learning.

Isn’t that what life is all about? learning and growing and becoming better? It’s not about perfection or keeping up appearances and thank Heaven for that. I love the mess and I love learning through the mess because the mess is beautiful. Heck, life is one big junk drawer that we are always trying to clean out however, who can keep on top of that! But there are a lot of things in my junk drawer I love, because some of it is sentimental.

But how do we get that worth it life? Well, I’ve come up with some ideas on how to discover your worth it life!

  1. Make a list: Sit down for a few minutes today and make a list of things that bring you them most joy so that you can direct your focus! Does exercise bring you joy and what kind? Does crafting or photography or hiking Bring you joy? Or does singing, traveling, writing songs, horseback riding, tennis, time with friends, late nights out, Netflix binges or traveling Bring you joy? Make a list of every single thing that brings you joy or could bring you joy because then you’ll know what road to take.
  2. If you aren’t sure, figure it out: Are you unsure of your joy makers? Well, I have a tip. Think of those things that you just absolutely LOVE to talk about. You know, when people get you started it’s those topics that we just can’t stop wagging our tongues about. For me, it’s songwriting and training horses. Get me started and I just might not shut up. Lol . What are those things for you? Those are your joy makers? If you still aren’t sure what those are, make a list of things you’d like to try and start trying one at a time.
  3. Make a plan: Will your joy maker cost money? Of course, things like traveling and recording music take planning and saving for, but is it doable even if you’re on a tight budget? Yes! absolutely. Sit down and come up with a savings plan. Also it’s not a bad idea to come up with a timeline. Remember, it doesn’t need to be extravagant. Even if you can’t backpack across Europe right now, don’t cross it off the list. Make a goal, start saving and planning, and in the time being backpack around your own town. I guarantee there are places in your own town you haven’t seen!
  4. Baby steps are still steps: Even baby steps toward your joy makers are still steps. If being fit brings you joy, but you haven’t seen the inside of a gym in weeks or even taken a walk around the block, don’t sweat it… or do! Lol. If you want to feel fit, start by going for a brisk walk or doing 10 minutes on a bike. Then, slowly increase. The slower you go and more patient with yourself you are, the more likely you are to stick with it and achieve those fitness goals, therefore just take the steps! And remember, don’t be too hard on yourself. Just take that fist step. You got this!

Finding joy in that worth it life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Will it be hard? Maybe. Will it be worth it? Absolutely. The best thing that we can do for ourself is allow ourself to feel immense joy during our life!

So this week, try to remember to love those parts of you and of your life that are messy. We find ourselves in the mess and in the struggle, therefore don’t be afraid of the mess.  Through the struggle is where we find our worth it life! What does your worth it life look like?